Every new mother has probably heard every bit of advice possible. From breastfeeding to diapers to organic food, mothers love to share their tidbits of info. However, this can create frustrating feelings in a mother who doesn’t seem to have it going as easy, or just generally different from another.
Parenthood is a different journey for every single person. Every child has a different personality, likes, dislikes and more. This means that parenthood isn’t just a science, it is an art. That is why these are 7 truths that every new mother needs to live by.
1. Breast is Best, But Fed is Actually Best.
Everyone will tell you that “breast is best.” From a scientific standpoint, this is absolutely true when a child is still nursing. There are proven ways that breastfeeding benefits the baby, and the mother. (hello, sweet calorie burn!) HOWEVER, if you cannot breastfeed, or choose not to, this does not make you less of a mother. Your child will be just as happy and healthy with formula and that is all that matters. If they are growing, happy and healthy.
2. Labor Sucks, No Matter If the Baby is Pushed Out or Cut Out.
For some reason, people that think the baby coming out vaginally is more important, or more real than mothers who have a section. This is far from the truth! Section mamas have a whole different set of challenges that they need to contend with, and every birth should be celebrated.
3. Hold Your Baby as Much or as Often as You Want.
How often do you hear NEVER to rock your baby to sleep? Well, sometimes this can make a habit that you may need to break them out of. But you know what? They will never be this small again. Also, if your child was like mine and wouldn’t sleep at first without being held, sleep is more important than where it is that they sleep!
(If you are ready to get them sleeping in their crib, click here!)
4. Breastfeeding is Natural But Hard!
The nurses always told me that it is so natural, the baby will just take over! Well, it was weeks of her screaming at me because she wasn’t getting enough milk because the position I was trying wasn’t working. If you’re having trouble breastfeeding, speak up! You aren’t alone!
For example, the baby may be allergic to things in your milk! This makes it stressful to breastfeed successfully.
5. Postpartum Depression is a Thing, and You NEED To Talk About It.
1 in 7 women gets PPD. The sad thing is, many are afraid to speak up because they feel like they need to be the backbone of the family and that they need to have it together at all times. This isn’t true, It is okay to not be okay, but it isn’t okay to not talk about it. Get help, get support.
6. Don’t Follow Baby Books TOO Closely.
As I said, child raising is an art, not a science. What works for one may not work for the other. By following the books too closely you and your baby may be frustrated if what you are reading isn’t what works for you. In the end, mama always knows best!
7. It’s Okay To Need Help.
If you’re having difficulty, congratulations. This means you’re human. We all need help! Don’t be afraid to ask for help. In this post about functioning with arthritis, getting proper help is mentioned. Some people need more help than others, and that is perfectly okay.
It takes a village along with tons and tons of blood sweat and tears to have and raise a child. It isn’t easy. Everyone has different struggles. However, these seven universal truths are true for every mother.
Which truth did you need to learn the most? Why? Comment below!